Posted: September 9, 2011 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: Important Message | Tags: cancer, grief, stress |
I have for many years experienced in my own body how stress, mental attitude, carelessness and negative beliefs attributed to health imbalances, I have also witnessed exceptionally quick healing processes once I mentally focused on the question what was I doing that caused a particular illness. The awareness of what was going on in my mind, such as fear or insecurity, was usually the first indicator. Other deeply embedded problems were a little more difficult to approach but once brought to light healing began. If everyone took responsibility for everything in their own life can you imagine what kind of world it would be!!! Probably not, it’s hard to imagine. Cancer is caused by-deep-rooted hatreds, grief eating away at the self. However most people want it to be something else something special and they are right it is special in the most negative sense…
Posted: September 5, 2011 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: Important Message | Tags: inner health, meditation, mind is like cancer, silence |
When silence happens nobody can take it away. Silence is inner health. Mind means chaos, illness and disease, seriousness and poverty are diseases like a cancer. The mind cannot be silent. Meditation can create the situation in which the silence happens. Meditation itself cannot bring silence.
Posted: August 22, 2011 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: Important Message | Tags: busy, busyness, live life, missing out on life, trying to keep it together |
Busy people are like machines. They spend all their energy and efforts trying to be self-important – trying to keep it all together, making sure everything runs effortlessly. They have forgotten how to truly live, how to truly be. To do something different terrifies them, no time – busy, busy, busy.
What do they miss out on?
Living the mystery of life. Embracing each moment in pure ecstasy and being in flow with the miracles waiting to happen.
Posted: August 18, 2011 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: Message | Tags: childish behaviour, gathering information, growing old, inner transformation |
“People go on growing in age but not in maturity. They don’t become really ripe; they remain as childish as anybody else. And when you are a child and are childish it is not so embarrassing, but when you have become old and you are childish it is very embarrassing. They hide it, but deep down they are the same person, nothing has happened — because nothing ever happens without meditation. Just accumulating experience of the outside world does not transform you. It makes you very well informed about many things, but information is information, it is not transformation.”
The benefits of just gathering information, to name a few:
- Every single one of us has had that embarrassing feeling in the pit of our stomach. That definitely happens more so when you are old and immature.
- Either you go bright red or at least your neck does! Or you struggle composing your whole physique.
- You are living your life fast asleep.
The benefits of transformation are:
- You are completely empowered regardless of the situation.
- No red face or neck no squirming or squinting in your physique.
- Knowing your true self and knowing the power of silence!!!!
- You are beginning to awake.
My Conclusion: I spent over 36 years gathering useless information that got me nowhere, the difference is an experience words are only pointers.
Where do you want to be?
A 71-year old man said he felt like a 5-year old boy he asked my advice – I said you are 5 years old you just have an older body….
Posted: August 15, 2011 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: Message | Tags: havoc, mirror, reflections, relationships |
If our relationships are not working and you are aware that you cannot change the other person, your life will be far more positive. People are only a mirror of an aspect of us, so naturally we have to change ourselves then the reflection changes. Firstly stop expecting others to meet our needs, this will never happen. We are responsible for our own happiness, our own independence and sense of security. Expecting someone else to be responsible creates a co-dependent relationship. Which in turn causes HAVOC!!!
Posted: August 11, 2011 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: Message, News Headlines | Tags: riots looting London UK, vandalism charges, view on riots |
I am definitely not excusing rioters, vandals and looters behaviour, however having experienced my own vandalism charges for smashing up my ex husbands van over 30 years ago, I didn’t just get up one morning and decide to cause a riot.
What did happen was that for a very long time I was unable to express my feelings; I was unable to share with someone what was going on inside my head; I was unable to speak to anybody about anything. I was brought up in a staunch Catholic family with very strict values of what was right and wrong however the pain and suffering of not dealing with my emotions and trying to do the right thing took its toll. I went berserk (this is how the media reported my case in the papers) smashed his van with a crowbar and threw bricks through the windows. I also attempted to slash the tyres when I was arrested by police. I honestly didn’t know I was capable of this.
After having had interdicts put on my ex-husband as well as having reported many situations to both the police and the legal system they did nothing about his violent threats; his stalking me; his removing all my belongings illegally out of my house; his selling my van – so I took the law into my own hands. Would I recommend this, NO however what I can say is that he never came near me or the area I lived in again.
Although I went through the court system I was never offered any help at any time from police or judges or my lawyers. Ten years later I was once again on my knees in agony at the way I was living my life and once again with the police in my life and this time I did go for help off my own back and I have never looked back since. I have worked with many many youngsters who all have violent criminal records and in my experience when I worked with them and treated them as my equal the were actually beautiful young men and women who all had a story like all of us. Like me, they had no idea how to deal with their emotions.
The criminal justice system punishes, this just fuels the already deep-rooted anger and never goes beneath the surface to address the root cause which is knowing why we have the violence inside us in the first place. In my opinion could change lives beyond belief as it did mine…
Posted: August 8, 2011 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: Q & A | Tags: change in attitude, self help, what I want |
Q. “So in a nutshell, what I always wanted, a job that I love and a man that I love, has quite quickly turned into a major stress-factor. Now to my realisation: if when I get what I want and dream about always turns out to be something shitty, I must be doing something wrong. I must be attracting this with my attitude and behaviour. And this has major implications on me because at the very moment I am seriously slacking and procrastinating with the business and I think it is this fear of something I really want turning into something that makes me very unhappy…” Eva T London
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A. Eva when we do something we love we relish the challenges rather than fear them. Life itself is challenge – the experience of happiness, the experience of shame, the experience of guilt, the experience suffering, the experience of peace, the experience of letting go, the experience of love, the experience of pain. These things are all we need to know to have a living experience; these things and life are the same thing….
There are only two reasons why something doesn’t work and that is 1. if our intention for something is out (we think we want something, but we really don’t) or 2. we have a bad past experience. That is it.
I suggest you write down:
- What you would like to change about your attitude?
- Why you think you have that attitude and where it came from?
- What you would like to happen with your situation or challenge and then find out how you could change and action it?
When you embrace your experiences with action and an open mind you can learn lessons quickly and be liberated …
Posted: November 9, 2010 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: MawdsLeigh Equus |
I have been reading with much interest your section in respect of MawdsLeigh Equus. My Daughter has owned Beau, a Connemara Thoroughbred Cross, since the beginning of the year (previously loaned him for 1 year). He is 10 years old and up until last August she has very much enjoyed competing/eventing on him in Cross Country, Hunter Trials and Show Jumping. Back in April this year, Beau developed a hoof infection (Right Front) which was poultered. Since this infection he has and is, continuing to show signs of lameness with treatment of infusions being administered to the navicular bursa. Beau has also been re-shod with raised heels due to the vet advising of a high degree of hoof imbalance. The time span of this has now been over many months with Periods of “Box Rest”, and periods of my daughter able to ride “in walk”.
I am eagerly attempting to question my own self awareness in respect of this story – the frustration, the disappointment, that I have felt for my daughter I accept, is my own frustration and disappointment. I now find myself personally exhausted by all the “external” information surrounding Beaus lameness and feel the way forward is to question the “internal”, especially the mirroring that is going on in terms of Beau, my daughter and myself! Could this be a total imbalance with my daughter? myself? or all of us?
I would welcome any comments, advice or guidance you may have that will enable me to unravel any highlighted truths, which, in turn may help each of us in our own personal journeys!
Thank you
Fiona Hills Lewes, East Sussex
Hi Fiona
You are a very courageous and wise lady to know that whatever is happening externally that is affecting you is an opportunity to look inward and start or continue the healing process.
Beau’s lameness is two things: first he is reflecting aspects of your own inner thought system. Second he is letting you know that he is not being treated correctly and that he is not having an enjoyable experience and that the situation is inappropriate. An insight into the internal world is that the right side represents the (masculine) career, finance (father) the feet are about moving forward and the infection (lack of joy flowing through you). There is also relationship issues horse/rider (daughter) because of the injections Beau requires.
Without working with you to resolve your inner conflict at a deeper level, you have the opportunity here to look at where you have lack of joy in both your career, financial situation and relationships, your daughter will have the same patterns as you and as for the horse Beau he is a gift to open you up to another way of looking at things. Beau is also letting you know that there is a bonding (communication) issue with your daughter (as he needs shots into his bones to reduce friction). This will also reflect the relationship between you and your daughter (friction/lack of joy).
This is only an insight however without working with someone who knows what they are doing the pattern will keep on repeating itself in various forms. On a positive note whenever you have addressed and/or moved through your own dilemmas with clarity only three things can happen: the horse makes a full recovery or a new horse is effortlessly presented to you and you will have complete understanding and awareness of the inner thought system (why things happen, where they stem from and how to resolve situations). As for your daughter she has to want to work with this and sometimes it can take many painful situations before they are ready to become aware. What a pain I had to endure before awakening however what a revelation it was for me to know that there are solutions for everything. WOW!!
Posted: October 5, 2010 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: News Headlines | Tags: Gamu Nhengu, News and Media, Supply and Demand, XFactor |
The media and press love to create sensationalism, they love emphasizing the most shocking and sensitive aspects of someone especially their emotional state, this only fulfils people’s demands. In economics they have a theory, wherever there is demand there is supply. This is what the news and media are doing. I want to change that rule. I want to reverse it. I want to say “Wherever there is supply, demand is bound to be created.” Don’t go on fulfilling the demand, because the demand is coming from the lowest level of society. Supply from the highest intelligence of the society, and create the demand. And I know it happens, even against all economic theories.
Look at it this way specifically from the highest aspect of intelligence, Gamu Nhengu does not want to be in the X Factor final 12 or she would be there. Ever thought that just maybe something in her psyche is blocking her from doing what she loves doing. It happens to all of us and sometimes the most painful lessons are the most poignant. Everybody loves to project the blame onto someone else; my attitude is that if we all weeded out our own gardens instead of being in everyone else’s garden what a different society and what a very different level of sensationalism the press and media could promote.
So my message to the news and media is that you are not taking responsibility. You are not taking care of humanity. You are simply exploiting people. And Gamu look at what is being reflected back at you; if you need any help don’t hesitate to contact me!!!!
Posted: October 4, 2010 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: Important Message, News Headlines | Tags: Entrepreneurs, Female entrepreneurs, Madness, Male entrepreneurs |
One of my business clients (successful female entrepreneur from a very violent abusive background) asked my opinion on this article and theory that “without positive intervention negative experiences in adolescence might help discourage a girl from owning a business as an adult.” Also stating that genetic influence has no bearing on whether boys become entrepreneurs, but many social factors, including family influence, do prompt men to own businesses. For girls, genetic factors play a role in determining personality traits such as extroversion and emotional stability, and those traits can help sway whether girls become entrepreneurs. However, this new research adds the wrinkle that childhood trauma can still impede that genetic influence on girls.”
If you would like to read the full article click here
I have to say that after having a good laugh at the garbage of the new research led by Zhen Zhang, assistant professor in the W. P. Carey School of Business at ASU my opinion is Entrepreneurs (both male and female) are simply those who understand that there is very little difference between problems and opportunities most are intelligent enough to turn both to their own advantage. I believe that whenever you repress anything, your mind becomes focused on it. Have your own mind and have your own individuality. Only the sheep are part of the crowd. Be individual, on your own. Live life with your own eyes; listen with your own ears. The ordinary person is being used by their mind. When it becomes too much, when the mind starts using you completely in an authoritarian way, it is called madness. Everything that is being taught, and most people are following it is called madness. The more you become a part of society, the less and less you are an individual, the less and less you are natural. When you follow the rules of the game in society you are then living someone else’s life. That is called absolute madness. I experienced so much madness without really knowing how mad I was, to not share this would be a dishonour to anyone who wants sanity.
