Holiday Season

Q: The holiday season is now coming up and, as a single person, I have issues with holidays.  This year I want to arrange a holiday that is special and relaxing, probably going alone but not really liking the idea of a holiday alone. What would your advice be about creating a holiday that nurtures me and flows easily?  I usually go on holiday with friends but the last one was, I found, quite stressful and I feel that now it’s time to branch out alone, although I feel apprehensive about this.

 A: Most people are apprehensive about embracing the new, this is because it can be a very liberating experience if we allow it to be. There are so many ventures out there I would suggest that you narrow things down by defining what nurturing and flows easily means to you, research these areas, ask for testimonials, this helps you communicate with others to help you find the best possible holiday for you. You can go anywhere in world, there will always lessons to be learned and when they are learned these experience’s bring tremendous growth.

Any comments or suggestions from anyone are welcome.


Family Support

Q: I have some issues with my family regarding support. I have been doing the personal development work now for 2 years and I love it – my life has transformed. However, my family don’t support me, they think of me as crazy and my sister calls it the ‘wanky projection stuff’. Most of the time I am ok with it, however, recently I have wanted to move forward and further my development. In order to do this, I need their support in terms of looking after my daughter for 1 day every few weeks. However, whenever I ask for any kind of support, I am met with reluctance and negative comments. I find it hard to get a balance between being with my family and experiencing their negativity and doing what I love. I feel a quiet despair at times. I want to move forward but it sometimes feels like I have to choose between my family and my happiness. Thank you.

A: There is always duality inside our mind, in actual fact these are the two conflicting aspects inside your own mind. When you are developing yourself, it is impossible to stay in negativity. I would ask first of all, why do you need their support? What I see from what you have written is that your happiness is conditional on the family’s support. There are so many options waiting there for you when you are really ready for happiness. If you can respect your family and how frightened they are and have no expectation on them, you can then only move forward putting your needs first and this brings the perfect balance inside you.


Let’s scrap system where teachers watch lives fall apart

British children are some of the least well nurtured in the developed world, according to statistics on poverty, mental health, and behavioural problems.  For many young people who are failing in our schools, their disaffection may be rooted in a lack of early affection and their lack of good, early adult engagement.  Initial teacher training is failing to prepare teachers to understand and support young people with underlying problems.  The implication of this is not that teachers need to be social workers and therapists, but they do need to have therapeutic disposition, a professional understanding of developmental psychology.
To read the full article please click here 

By James Wetz a visiting fellow at Bristol University Graduate School of Education 

MY VIEW:

This is great news that the Education System, is now starting to recognise that the situation needs more understanding and development of how school failure inflicts on young people and their teachers and to which inadequate teacher training can only contribute further.  Having realised this problem a few years ago and doing some very successful pilot schemes with student’s teachers and parents, we are really focusing on getting the MawdsLeigh Method into the teacher training modules throughout the UK. We have created educational books, workbooks and training for students, teachers and parents which will be available by the end of May 2010. We have a few very successful case studies who have participated in the MawdsLeigh Method applying what they have learned on a daily basis and we are achieving remarkable results. We have also created a new apprenticeship program where we have some very courageous individuals learning the MawdsLeigh Method and applying this knowledge into their own lives, relationships, families and businesses and are helping us spread these amazing teachings.


Taxmen Hate their Government Jobs

A survey has revealed that taxmen are the most miserable workers in the country. Senior MPs say Revenue and Customs staff face “burnout” through the stress of dealing with the recession. The results of the staff survey were “dire” and describes morale as “fragile” – Sub Committee Chairman Michael Fallon says “we are alarmed by the low morale and its effect on performance.”

Firstly what recession? HELP THE TAXMEN This is definitely a mindset. I have written to Michael Fallon offering my services.  You only need to make a few small changes in a very positive direction to change the whole environment.

I lived in a recession for over 20 years in my own little head. However being educated in self-development, I haven’t been back their for the last 13 years. No matter how “dire” the situation there are always positive solutions for every circumstance.

PS. If the survey next year reports “Happy, Stressless Taxmen” you’ll know I have got the contract!


Let Parents Run Schools

The Scottish Tories unveiled sweeping new plans for a network of schools free, open to all - and privately operated. The Conservatives say they want to “break the state monopoly on education” by giving parents the power to run schools.  13,000 school leavers struggle to read and write.

My view: On one hand this could be the biggest disaster in education to date. However on the other hand it could alter the whole education system with outstanding results. The most important thing for me is to see each individual take complete responsiblity and accountability - in its truest form, for their actions. In my experience having worked with politicians, teachers, parents and students they are actually uneducated in how to take responsibility and accountability for every action, in its truest sense.

I am making the changes I want to see in my life and I am working with an eclectic mix of individuals to help them make the changes they want in their life. As for the other 97% of the population who are fast asleep, its scary to think that the present system and the proposed system is carried out whilst they are all sleeping anyway. 

Your views: I would love to hear your views, please leave your comments.


Sleazy Texts

Nobody is really addressing the underlying cause of the sleazy texts and sex scandals. The reason I know this is that it recurs every time. It’s never the sleazy texts or the sex scandal that is really the issue. There is an underlying fear – shadow from the past, which needs to be looked at in order to fully understand why they do it.

The more you have or the nearer the light, the more you want to shrivel back into the darkness.

There is always devastation when this behaviour happens both with the person it has happened to and the person who is doing it. In actual fact, both are the same thing. Nobody can do anything to you without your permission.

“Life reflects your own thoughts back to you” Napoleon Hill

How would you begin to resolve these issues?
We all have learning handicaps in a very literal sense. There are areas in our learning skills that are so impaired that we can progress only under constant, clear-cut direction, provided by a Teacher Who can transcend your limited resources (someone who has actually transcended the behaviour within themselves). It’s because of yourself, you cannot learn.

A miracle (a change in perception) demonstrates that learning has occurred under the right guidance and what has been learned can be recognised only by its results.

No results = no learning = recurring behaviour = pain

Learning = positive results = behaviour comes to an end = naturally proceed forward = greater happiness

So to name but a few: Tiger Woods, Ashley Cole, Vernon Kay, John Terry, Allan McGregor and Paul Robson - do you really want to transcend your behaviour?

And girls – it would be really beneficial to take responsiblity and stop believing that the situation can change without any help.


Win-Win

Q: My question is that recently the council have said we are infringing on our neighbours boundary, when in fact both neighbours are infringing on ours! This is something we have known since we bought the house, but have chosen not to change things. What do I need to do about my personal boundaries, as I have been clearly given an indication something needs to change?

 A: Any conflict is always a place of opportunity, a new place for healing. A healthy personal boundary is a space around yourself that gives you a clear sense of who you are and where you’re going.

When you choose who you allow into your physical, emotional and mental space, you’re activating your personal boundaries. Have the facts (if possible, in writing) and then back up for the facts (evidence), then you will have confidence in yourself to move the situation forward; be honest with yourself with your true feelings and opinions.

You have clearly been given an indication that something needs to change as it will surface time and time again until you address the situation. Always go for a win-win and find a solution acceptable to all parties involved. It is not the truth unless everyone wins; settle for nothing less than everyone feeling as if they have won, this brings a new integrity into the situation. Your attitude towards the conflict will begin to show you the natural way through it.


Questions?

Hi Everyone,

I have had a number of people ask where they can post questions for my blog. It seems to be unclear how to do this.

Just email me at info@mawdsleigh.com

I look forward to your questions.

Veronica


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