Posted: August 11, 2011 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: Message, News Headlines | Tags: riots looting London UK, vandalism charges, view on riots |
I am definitely not excusing rioters, vandals and looters behaviour, however having experienced my own vandalism charges for smashing up my ex husbands van over 30 years ago, I didn’t just get up one morning and decide to cause a riot.
What did happen was that for a very long time I was unable to express my feelings; I was unable to share with someone what was going on inside my head; I was unable to speak to anybody about anything. I was brought up in a staunch Catholic family with very strict values of what was right and wrong however the pain and suffering of not dealing with my emotions and trying to do the right thing took its toll. I went berserk (this is how the media reported my case in the papers) smashed his van with a crowbar and threw bricks through the windows. I also attempted to slash the tyres when I was arrested by police. I honestly didn’t know I was capable of this.
After having had interdicts put on my ex-husband as well as having reported many situations to both the police and the legal system they did nothing about his violent threats; his stalking me; his removing all my belongings illegally out of my house; his selling my van – so I took the law into my own hands. Would I recommend this, NO however what I can say is that he never came near me or the area I lived in again.
Although I went through the court system I was never offered any help at any time from police or judges or my lawyers. Ten years later I was once again on my knees in agony at the way I was living my life and once again with the police in my life and this time I did go for help off my own back and I have never looked back since. I have worked with many many youngsters who all have violent criminal records and in my experience when I worked with them and treated them as my equal the were actually beautiful young men and women who all had a story like all of us. Like me, they had no idea how to deal with their emotions.
The criminal justice system punishes, this just fuels the already deep-rooted anger and never goes beneath the surface to address the root cause which is knowing why we have the violence inside us in the first place. In my opinion could change lives beyond belief as it did mine…
Posted: October 5, 2010 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: News Headlines | Tags: Gamu Nhengu, News and Media, Supply and Demand, XFactor |
The media and press love to create sensationalism, they love emphasizing the most shocking and sensitive aspects of someone especially their emotional state, this only fulfils people’s demands. In economics they have a theory, wherever there is demand there is supply. This is what the news and media are doing. I want to change that rule. I want to reverse it. I want to say “Wherever there is supply, demand is bound to be created.” Don’t go on fulfilling the demand, because the demand is coming from the lowest level of society. Supply from the highest intelligence of the society, and create the demand. And I know it happens, even against all economic theories.
Look at it this way specifically from the highest aspect of intelligence, Gamu Nhengu does not want to be in the X Factor final 12 or she would be there. Ever thought that just maybe something in her psyche is blocking her from doing what she loves doing. It happens to all of us and sometimes the most painful lessons are the most poignant. Everybody loves to project the blame onto someone else; my attitude is that if we all weeded out our own gardens instead of being in everyone else’s garden what a different society and what a very different level of sensationalism the press and media could promote.
So my message to the news and media is that you are not taking responsibility. You are not taking care of humanity. You are simply exploiting people. And Gamu look at what is being reflected back at you; if you need any help don’t hesitate to contact me!!!!
Posted: October 4, 2010 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: Important Message, News Headlines | Tags: Entrepreneurs, Female entrepreneurs, Madness, Male entrepreneurs |
One of my business clients (successful female entrepreneur from a very violent abusive background) asked my opinion on this article and theory that “without positive intervention negative experiences in adolescence might help discourage a girl from owning a business as an adult.” Also stating that genetic influence has no bearing on whether boys become entrepreneurs, but many social factors, including family influence, do prompt men to own businesses. For girls, genetic factors play a role in determining personality traits such as extroversion and emotional stability, and those traits can help sway whether girls become entrepreneurs. However, this new research adds the wrinkle that childhood trauma can still impede that genetic influence on girls.”
If you would like to read the full article click here
I have to say that after having a good laugh at the garbage of the new research led by Zhen Zhang, assistant professor in the W. P. Carey School of Business at ASU my opinion is Entrepreneurs (both male and female) are simply those who understand that there is very little difference between problems and opportunities most are intelligent enough to turn both to their own advantage. I believe that whenever you repress anything, your mind becomes focused on it. Have your own mind and have your own individuality. Only the sheep are part of the crowd. Be individual, on your own. Live life with your own eyes; listen with your own ears. The ordinary person is being used by their mind. When it becomes too much, when the mind starts using you completely in an authoritarian way, it is called madness. Everything that is being taught, and most people are following it is called madness. The more you become a part of society, the less and less you are an individual, the less and less you are natural. When you follow the rules of the game in society you are then living someone else’s life. That is called absolute madness. I experienced so much madness without really knowing how mad I was, to not share this would be a dishonour to anyone who wants sanity.
Posted: July 14, 2010 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: News Headlines | Tags: Criminology, Manhunt, Murder, Raoul Moat, Revenge |
Jul 13 2010 by Laura Caroe, The Journal
HE shot dead an innocent man and blasted two others.
Yet Raoul Moat, who sparked one of Britain’s biggest manhunts while leaving a trail of devastation behind him, has become a cult hero.
Thousands of people have joined websites and forums after it became evident that the former bouncer hated the police.
Yet his ability to evade the authorities who were trying to hunt him down and the tragic circumstances in which it all ended, became a symbol for all those who wanted to rebel against law and order.
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Veronica’s comment:
Why are people so surprised at this? Revenge is not going to help, because law and order are doing the same crime that the criminal has committed. Of course, they usually have the support of the whole society; so nobody calls their punishment a crime however this time thousands of people are expressing exactly how they feel. Punishment helps to create more criminals. The imprisoned people, they are in the millions now, are just getting training. Jails are universities for criminology. Inmates begin to study crime and criminals, most of the time they are unaware. They start of as an amateur and end up a professional as they learn from the very best, they can’t wait to get out and try out what they have learned, the real crime is when they are caught, as once again they are back inside this time becoming masters of criminology. As far as I am aware there is no system in our prisons that teach self-awareness, if there was, the world would be a very different place. Commune’s could be set up, whatever crime they did, perhaps they were unconsciously doing it, not knowing what they were really doing and why. We could help them clean their unconscious, we could make them more aware, we could clean them, we could give them a new birth a new way of living, once they have a solid basic foundation they can become creative. Creativity has something to do with the quality of your consciousness. Whatsoever you do can become creative if you know what creativity means. The new amateurs that arrive will become professionals and Masters in self-awareness not crime. This is the only way forward as far as I am concerned however the law, courts and the majority of society live the unaware life too!!!
Posted: July 1, 2010 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: Message, News Headlines | Tags: Alternative sports, awareness, meditation, Sports, Sports world |
Most tennis players, footballers or in fact all sports people, have experienced the strong influence the mind has on their play. One day everything goes right and the next nothing seems to work, even though physically there has been no change. The body knows how to play the sport but the nervous mind creates tension that constrains the body. In the sports world players are encouraged to develop “mental toughness.” I believe the change has to be made in peace of mind through awareness and watchfulness, and in finding the place of silence where sport meets meditation.
I find it easiest to watch my mind when I compete in a challenging situation. When I play any sport I usually catch myself somewhere other than on the game, whatever it is I play. When I work with sportsmen and women their body knows exactly what do they just need to be fully present. The mind creates all kinds of doubts and frustrations, and often these are projected onto the game sport or individual. Taking responsibility in this instance requires sharing, and I often ask sportsmen and women to share what is going on for them after a few minutes of play. Admitting what is really going on creates space for relaxation and change. I always discover that our life patterns reappear in our game. The solution required is unlearning through awareness and letting go. I noticed my anger transform to joy as I gave myself the freedom to get it wrong.
As a child whenever I expressed frustration and anger I punished my-self and things became worse. I learned to suppress these emotions in life, and this was reinforced whenever I play sports. Today I value the ability that at times I remain cool and non-judgemental. I notice that some days I have an emotional response to almost every challenge, be it “good” or “bad.” And I know that if I always breathe, fully and consciously exhaling this makes an enormous difference in feeling connected and present in my body. I am now allowing my childhood passion, Horses to come back with a completely different mindset. My creativity can flow when I am aware and watching my body mind and emotions. And most importantly for me accept the happiness they give me.
If every sports person put awareness, meditation and sport together – can you imagine!!!! No words to describe this phenomenon.
Posted: June 19, 2010 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: Important Message, News Headlines | Tags: Anger, Edinburgh Murder, Murder, Pain, Suzanne Pilley Murder |
I have been an observer of this unsolvable case having known the family from many years ago, Suzanne’s ex lover David Gilroy will without a shadow of a doubt be living in terror, in hell, everybody is full of hate for himself, never mind someone who murders. Do you think if you hate yourself you can find or make someone love you? If you are not ready to love yourself it is impossible for anybody else to love you. The whole of humanity is living in a hell. Heaven and hell are not realities but ways of living. You can live in jealousy that’s how most people live. You can live in competition, you can live in conflict, you can live in ambition. That’s how you have been brought up to live. This is the way of hell! No joy, no love and the simple reason is, that we created a split from the very beginning. We try to repress the real and impose the unreal. My opinion is – it is time to stop this madness. Comparison is an attitude of madness, because each person is unique and incomparable. Once you have this understanding jealousy disappears. Awareness is absolute, love is supreme; jealousy, possessiveness, hatred, anger, lust, murder are the poisons. Even although no one has been caught as yet THE MURDERER’S pain and suffering will be incomprehensible.
Posted: June 9, 2010 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: News Headlines | Tags: Eating Programmes, NHS, Obese Kids |
This word health is very meaningful: it means wholeness, it means holiness, it means a deep healing in the self. The NHS want to help children and youngsters get rid of their obesity; re-educate them in their eating habits, I believe this attitude is totally negative. They are once again being forced to become normal again, to become a part of the normal world again. They are maladjusted; they need adjustment and the psychiatrists/coaches/counsellors/NHS helps them to be adjusted again. But adjusted to whom? Adjusted to this world, this society, which is absolutely sick. People do not want to be disturbed; their effort is only for adjustment, not for health. Hopefully everybody knows that after laughter, good laughter, a belly full of laughing, you almost feel that you have taken an ice-cold shower; a peacefulness, a silence, a freshness to life comes about… The same is true about crying, but very few people know the secret of crying because it is more repressed than laughter. Laughter is such a healthy exercise. When somebody is laughing — that’s perfectly good exercise. This word health is very meaningful: it means wholeness, it means holiness, it means a deep healing in the self. Therefore encourage health in its truest form not re-education of the surface façade!!
Posted: June 9, 2010 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: News Headlines | Tags: Crazed Cabbie, Cumbria murders, Cumbrian Massacres, Madness, Triggers |
Recently there has been a huge amount of press on the Cumbrian massacres. The crazed cabbie driver was known as a ‘very normal and nice man.’ I thought this would be a good opportunity to highlight that very normal and nice people are human beings. What society calls the ‘normal’ human being is nothing but normal pathology or normal madness, normal insanity. The ‘normal’ man is also insane, but insane within the boundaries, the accepted boundaries of the society, of the culture. Sometimes someone intrudes, goes beyond the boundaries — then he becomes ill. Then the whole society, which is ill, says that this man is ill. And the psychiatrists, police etc are investigating and trying to piece together what happened, why he flipped, it is impossible for them to do this, because one madman cannot help another madman go beyond madness.
The trigger for this madness is in everyone (no exceptions) it comes out at different times and in different forms; the longer issues are left unaddressed the more extreme the outcome.
Posted: June 3, 2010 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: Message, News Headlines | Tags: Change Mindsets, Media, Misery, Negative News |
THE News and Media People must LIVE IN MISERY, and it would appear they cannot accept anybody who is not miserable just like themselves. To accept that somebody has become peaceful or happy is humiliating to them, it wounds their ego. Or else they would take a chance and start writing good news in their newspapers, and promoting positivity on TV. Very seldom do we see amazing stories on headline news, why give murderers, bombers, paedophiles and of course the politicians and government any precedence, start paying no attention to them, their negativity and false promises and the whole mindsets of the country will start to change. When misery is no longer popular the news stories and media will have to change !!!!
Posted: May 27, 2010 | Author: Veronica Leigh | Filed under: News Headlines | Tags: Smoking Toddler |
Ardi Rizal, 2, throws a tantrum when his parents refuse him a cigarette.
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Veronica’s Comment: Children are careful watchers and observe everything that is happening all around them! What are children observing and learning from you?
All comments welcome…
